Otherkin

Every few years I go through some sort of experience where I want to slink unnoticed into a non-human bar, sit down next to someone gruff and helpful, or nongruff and helpful, and eventually get answers to stuff that I cannot really solve by myself. I don't want to just sit at some lecture by someone perky or nonperky talking *about* lore and stuff, if it isn't helpful to me. I am no longer scholarly, or patient with anything dubious. For example, there's a lady who works at a new age sort of book store that we go to now and again, who spends all her %$#@*&^ time telling the customers how she's 'part-faery' and 'has got fae blood' and the whole act, when really, she's just there to sell books and maybe not go out of her way to hit complete strangers up with the "I'm so exotic you wouldn't believe it here let me show you it you won't believe it really" thing when they just ask about some books by Thich Nhat Hanh or feng shui or whatever. I just want to know, actually, how to deal with it when I appear to be not-precisely-species-compatible with my human partner, just when there are endless violent reactions to even touching my arm or foot or whatever (no joke, and not the kind of violence like hitting but like severe convulsions and fugue states and other severe emotional states lasting for hours or days to that person and severe energy sickness to me and all), and I just wanted to see if anyone at all in the known universe is helpful at this. So, that's the complete indiscreet blurtout of what I really wanted to know, but also sort of secretly wished this lady would be cool to know, without having to spend major money to find out--thanks. And sure, if anyone has great ideas on this subject or just about that lady, I'm listening--!